The uncertainty is just as deadly as the possibility of a cheating spouse in a relationship. The constant questions and doubts in your mind will drive a wedge between the two of you that is wide and painful. With that in mind, the first step you need to take is to find out the truth.

If you are faced with a cheating spouse, you are probably going to wonder at some point in the near future if now is the time to get rid of him and his cheating ways.

For some women it may very well be. We all have things we are and are not willing to tolerate. We also all have our very own and deeply personal limits on our capacity to forgive.

Don’t do anything drastic until you’ve experienced life on your own for a little while. In other words, don’t immediately turn around and file divorce papers. Give you and your spouse time to experience life without the other person in it. That way you can make an informed decision when the time comes rather than a “heat of the moment” decision that you may regret later.

Work on the things you are most insecure about.

You don’t go through something like having a spouse cheat on you without their being insecure coming to the surface. Work through them. Make improvements where you can and learn about the power of acceptance for the things that you cannot change. You’ll be a happier person all around and better prepared for future relationships and challenges.

It’s the act of “having your say” that will matter most even if you’re only saying it to yourself. It’s part of the healing process that will allow you some degree of closure so that you can eventually move on and have healthy relationships in the future. You can burn it when you’re done. It’s the act of “having your say” that will matter most even if you’re only saying it to yourself. There is nothing quite like putting your feelings on paper to help you work through them.

Write your feelings down.

Of course you may discover that what you want more than anything is to get your ex girlfriend back. Warning! Don’t do anything to try to win your spouse back until you’ve first done this.